I am humbled by stories of people putting other people first. It’s not really a natural human reaction, meaning, I believe our natural instinct is to look out for number one. Ourselves. But when someone selflessly gives, it’s really special. I am slowly beginning to believe that we all have this capacity, but we need to drop our ego and desires and replace them with a passion for people.
So I got some feedback on my post yesterday, about being in service to others. Not so much in comments on WordPress, but in my personal relationships. Today, I will clarify.
As a leader, you will have times where everyone wants something from you. It will seem like the questions never end, the requests get bigger and the time required to respond to these needs takes away from your “personal time”. You may say to your self, “I can’t get a break” or “I need some time alone” or “I just want to do what I want to do”. The truth is, the more you are entrusted with leadership duties, the more you will be called on by others to fulfill their needs. There is, however, a way to do this without losing your mind.
Some people spend a lot of time coming up with the perfect Thanksgiving speech or post that expresses their “thankfulness” for this or that. I think as leaders we shouldn’t fall into that trap. Time to dump the Thanksgiving speech.
Some events unfolded recently that inspired me to update an article from last Thanksgiving. It’s pretty hard to motivate someone to accomplish a goal if they don’t think you’re in the boat with them. You can only yell “stroke” from the beach for so long. Pretty soon, they won’t be able to hear you. Then what?
I just watched a series on HBO called “The Defiant Ones”. I didn’t know what I was getting myself into. I just thought it was a story about Dr. Dre and NWA’s rise to superstardom. I can’t say I was a huge fan of the music, but I do like a good success story. As always, I’m steadily looking for leadership lessons in everything and this documentary provided me with an unexpected epiphany. And it didn’t have anything to do with Dr. Dre or NWA.
Here’s a list of 5 things that start with the letter “C”, that will help ensure leaders lead well.
As we begin the Thanksgiving Weekend, I am reminded about something a mentor told me years ago. “You can’t keep what you have, unless you give it away”. Seems counter-intuitive, but when applied properly, it can make all the difference. Thanksgiving is not only about giving thanks, it’s an opportunity to give, period.
Serving others places great value in them and is an awesome motivator. It works with teammates, co-workers, loved ones, etc.. This means selflessly giving away your time, talent, wisdom and experience. Love others as you love yourself and you will gain the ability to influence others toward goals. Do this sacrificially and you get to keep that influence. People are more willing to follow a leader that sacrifices something for the cause. Find someone or something to pour love into, not only on Thanksgiving, but everyday.