When things go wrong, some people spend more time and energy pointing fingers and deflecting blame away from themselves, in an attempt to change the perception of others. In reality, that energy is better spent solving the problem. Even if it means pointing the finger at yourself.
I’m not really sure what to say here. Today was a good day. I got a lot of things done and was able to network with some folks, at an event we had for my job. It was actually a pretty easy day. I guess that’s OK. I’m very calm, pretty even keeled.
One thing I noticed today is, I’m not concerned with certain things that used to concern me a great deal. Mostly, I’m talking about other people’s perception of me.
Worrying about other people and how they feel about you can make you more stressed out than you need to be. It can actually make you physically sick.
You can’t change them anyway.
I noticed this today as someone in my circle was stressing out about something they really didn’t have to worry about. In the past, I may have joined them in their frustration, but I’m becoming more confident in my own thoughts and emotions.
I’d like to think it’s because I know better. But, I’m sure it also has a lot to do with the daily prayer challenge.
Have you started yet?
Sometimes when we get down on ourselves or have a bit of bad luck, it’s good to remember that it could be worse. Whatever situation you’re in, there is someone who’s worse off. I don’t know if this is the best way to describe this, but I’m trying to get you to think about perspective.
People are afraid right now. It’s a fact. They justify their fears by saying “this or that could happen” and “the future is unknown”. By that logic we would always be afraid and unfortunately, that’s true for a lot of people. On the inside, we know we’re not supposed to feel this way. We innately know that on a daily basis, our life should be set up to live without constant fear. That’s why we go to work, earn a living, put a roof over our head, clothes on our back, support our children, etc… We’re naturally driven to seek out a sense of peace and security. One could argue that when we are fearful we are in a sense broken, or in a broken situation. So, how can we fix it?
Ever been in a really tough spot in your career? Have you ever been forced to work in a group where the team argued most of the time? Did you get passed up for that promotion and raise? Is there distrust in the workplace culture? I’m sure we’ve all been in tough environments and our first instinct is to escape. We wish we could fast forward to the end and see how it turns out. Let me tell you a story about tough environments.
When you blame others for your problems, you give away the ability to fix those issues. You place the “power” over the situation in something or someone external to yourself. How much luck do you think you will have changing others, so that your situation improves? Learn to identify the root cause of the issue, WITHIN YOU. Most times, it lies within fear, anger or resentment. Clearly identifying the cause gives clarity to the solution. By readjusting your perspective, you can properly solve the problem. – bossinthemiddle.com
If you are sensitive to topics of race, it’s probably because our society has sugar coated this stuff for too long. Time to start ripping the band-aid off.
It’s sad, but true. The higher a black person goes in an organization, the less of his or her own they see. Does it matter, when it comes to that black person’s ability to lead the group? In corporate America, other races don’t face this question on the same magnitude as black people for two reasons. Continue reading “Do black lives matter in leadership?”