High expectations can be bad. Ask my wife…

IMG_0523You ever hear people say, “keep your expectations low and you’ll never be disappointed”.  I’ve always thought that was a pretty simplistic worldview.  One that if abused, would lead to an average existence.  I’ve also heard people say, “keep your expectations high”, “keep pushing”, “never give up”, “your dreams will fail if you let them”, “sleep is for losers” and my personal favorite, “winners win and losers lose”.  On most days, I totally buy into this thought pattern.  However this mindset, when used cavalierly, can be detrimental as well.  The trick is timing and perspective.  Unfortunately, I learned this lesson the hard way.

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What’s better than being the best?

IMG_0518I just watched a series on HBO called “The Defiant Ones”.  I didn’t know what I was getting myself into.  I just thought it was a story about Dr. Dre and NWA’s rise to superstardom.  I can’t say I was a huge fan of the music, but I do like a good success story.  As always, I’m steadily looking for leadership lessons in everything and this documentary provided me with an unexpected epiphany.  And it didn’t have anything to do with Dr. Dre or NWA.

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Doing nothing, when nothing is required.

IMG_0516Everyone responds to fear, but it’s how you respond that makes the difference for a great leader.  Sometimes, we’re not supposed to do anything, but that can be tough.  Especially when we’re scared.

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Are your expectations causing issues?

IMG_0502We all have expectations. My expectations are probably too high at times. It’s causing issues and came to a head yesterday. Normally, I would think of this as something bad or negative about the person or group that doesn’t measure up.  For example, if people describe what they do as going “above and beyond” and in my mind they are only accomplishing the base expectation, it makes me think this person or group is lazy, which 9 times out of 10 is not the case. I can’t go on like this and expect to lead effectively.  I’m not exactly sure what to do, but here’s where I’m at with it.

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How I feel after 17 lbs. of weight loss. Reinventing myself.

IMG_0500I am still here.  I just finished a summer vacation, followed by some “catch up” time at work.  I have also been staying healthy.  Working out and eating properly.  I’m currently down about 17 lbs.  I want to focus on how I “feel” today.

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Boss in the middle – Prayer Challenge – Day 1.

IMG_0424We set ourselves up for failure by not following God’s simple rules for an abundant life. If you’re off track, start off by praying to God for 10 minutes every morning, before you do anything else. See how your week goes and then increase to 15 minutes the next week.

Come back here In two weeks and tell me what happened. I’ll do it to and report the results on my blog. Let’s call this a “prayer challenge”.

This is my day 1 Report:

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God will help you move mountains, but you need to bring a shovel.

img_0288Christians pray and ask God for help with problems. Some people think that means sitting back and doing nothing, waiting for God to magically work it all out. That sort of faith will get you nowhere. The Bible clearly teaches in James 2:17 that faith without works is dead.

There is no big secret. There is no magic pill. Things in this life worth having require counsel with the Most High, dedication and hard work. That’s it.

Sometimes, we are our biggest opponent to completing the mission. We are blinded by temporary obstacles, unable to see the potential within ourselves. Having faith means that we tie a knot and hold on at the end of our rope. This mindset becomes habitual and success, inevitable.

Getting started isn’t enough. As I recently heard Kai Greene put it, one must string together consecutive days of efficient action on a basic level, in order to achieve desired results. This implies the need for consistent action steps toward your goals, everyday. Personal accountability and follow through are vital.

No matter how big the obstacle, you can surpass it. By the Lord’s grace and mercy, you are a creature made with a spirit of power and not one of fear (2 Timothy 1:7). You just need to talk to God, find your purpose within your spiritual gift and be ready to work.

No weapon formed against you will prosper. (Isaiah 54:17)

Get your shovel ready, God’s waiting.

New Year’s Resolutions or New Year’s Reflections?

img_0286As we prepare for 2017 to roll in, I wanted to take a look at the concept of resolutions. There are folks that make them every year, swearing that “this is the year I’ll do blah blah blah”. Some keep the resolutions, while most fail to do so.

Others don’t waste their time. The thought being that they will break the resolution or that making a promise to do something worthwhile, like eating healthy and exercise, should be lifestyle changes totally detached from a “time of year”. They don’t want to make empty promises to themselves.

So what’s a leader to do?

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