One of the most important things you will do as a leader, is develop core members of your team. It starts, however, with one major step.
I wanted to repost this, as I learn this lesson over and over. We all get angry and that’s okay. It even happened to Jesus more than once, so don’t get upset that you got mad at someone. It’s how we react that matters. If we do it right, anger can actually be used to our advantage.
High performance teams require strong leaders, capable of influencing experts towards a specific goal. Leading a group toward any vision requires an understanding of people. This understanding only comes by listening well.
I took a break from blogging… I find that time away from something, especially things I’m passionate about is a good thing. It gave me time to re-establish my purpose.
At times in conversations, I accidentally cut people off, but doesn’t everybody? Does that mean I’m not a good listener?
You ever hear people say, “keep your expectations low and you’ll never be disappointed”. I’ve always thought that was a pretty simplistic worldview. One that if abused, would lead to an average existence. I’ve also heard people say, “keep your expectations high”, “keep pushing”, “never give up”, “your dreams will fail if you let them”, “sleep is for losers” and my personal favorite, “winners win and losers lose”. On most days, I totally buy into this thought pattern. However this mindset, when used cavalierly, can be detrimental as well. The trick is timing and perspective. Unfortunately, I learned this lesson the hard way.
We all have expectations. My expectations are probably too high at times. It’s causing issues and came to a head yesterday. Normally, I would think of this as something bad or negative about the person or group that doesn’t measure up. For example, if people describe what they do as going “above and beyond” and in my mind they are only accomplishing the base expectation, it makes me think this person or group is lazy, which 9 times out of 10 is not the case. I can’t go on like this and expect to lead effectively. I’m not exactly sure what to do, but here’s where I’m at with it.
Here’s a list of 5 things that start with the letter “C”, that will help ensure leaders lead well.
So, technically I passed my challenge. Pray for ten minutes at the beginning of the day and see what happens. I wrote a post afterwards, which you can read on my website. Quick summary of the post, God answered my prayer right away and told me to make sure to mind my behavior today because I haven’t had much sleep. I decided to stay quiet and just get through the day. I could do that! I was so proud of myself. I figured, today is gonna be easy! Little did I know, that was only the beginning.
During conflicts, a boss in the middle must know when to say “time-out”. There’s a point when arguing your point (even if you’re right) only works to further aggravate the situation. There are many other benefits to discontinuing an argument.