Words Matter

IMG_3983You see it everyday in the media.  It’s very apparent, maybe today more then ever, that words matter.  This lesson is learned very young in life and extends into adulthood.  It’s become such a normal part of life to hear negative words, that we often tell people to “have a thick skin” and “just ignore it”.  Even positive words can be dangerous.  That’s when we caution people with phrases like, “don’t get a big head” or “that person only wants one thing from you”.  Having said that, people should develop within themselves a certain level of spiritual fortitude, where they draw their value from God and not man.  But that’s not all we should do regarding positive and negative words.  Read on for some ways leaders can use words more effectively.

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5 things leaders must do everytime.

IMG_0562There are a lot of ways to lead a team.  Usually leaders will develop a style that matches their own strengths, as they pursues goals.  Each goal reached is a victory used to catapult the team to another level.  By utilizing various techniques, good leaders influence their teams to expected ends.  There are 5 things leader must do everytime in order to maximize their effectiveness and be part of a winning team.

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Real leaders don’t make promises.

IMG_0559A promise is something that elicits a strong emotional response.  Your promise enables people to believe in you, only to have their hopes shattered when you fall short.  During the sermon on the mount, Jesus reminds us that we should not make promises at all, for any reason.  Simply because we have no idea if we will be able to keep them.

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An honesty lesson for true leaders.

IMG_0554It feels good to tell the truth about myself.  I’m always liberated by it.  The lesson today is easy.

Being honest with yourself leads to self-leadership.

It’s one of those simple concepts that are hard to do.  Like, skydiving.  It’s simple, jump and pull the cord.  Don’t wait too long, bend your legs, hit the ground, do the roll, done.  Or something like that…  I’m sure there’s more to it, but probably not that much.  I’m sure I could learn the basics in a short time.  However, skydiving can be very hard to actually do because of things like; the possibility of death, fear, anxiety, common sense, etc.  Being honest with myself is sort of like that.

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Recovering from mistakes – a series. Part 4. Have a main goal to shift back to.

IMG_0548I wrote an article here about recovering from mistakes. In it, I gave 5 ways to recover from your mistakes. In this series, I will look at each one a little deeper.

1. Accept the mistake.

2. Don’t beat yourself up.

3. Find value.

4. Have a main goal to shift back to.

5. Don’t take yourself too seriously.

Today we explore #4- Have a main goal to shift back to.

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Recovering from mistakes. A series. Part 2. Don’t beat yourself up.

IMG_0540I wrote an article here about recovering from mistakes. In it, I gave 5 ways to recover from your mistakes. In this series, I will look at each one a little deeper.

1. Accept the mistake.

2. Don’t beat yourself up.

3. Find value.

4. Have a main goal to shift back to.

5. Don’t take yourself too seriously.

Today we’re on #2. Don’t beat yourself up.

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High expectations can be bad. Ask my wife…

IMG_0523You ever hear people say, “keep your expectations low and you’ll never be disappointed”.  I’ve always thought that was a pretty simplistic worldview.  One that if abused, would lead to an average existence.  I’ve also heard people say, “keep your expectations high”, “keep pushing”, “never give up”, “your dreams will fail if you let them”, “sleep is for losers” and my personal favorite, “winners win and losers lose”.  On most days, I totally buy into this thought pattern.  However this mindset, when used cavalierly, can be detrimental as well.  The trick is timing and perspective.  Unfortunately, I learned this lesson the hard way.

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