Ever had a situation where you felt like someone who didn’t deserve it, was making more money than you? I have experienced this and learned some valuable leadership lessons along the way.
Anyone can be a leader at any level, in any organization, even without a leadership “title”. This includes work, home life, charitable organizations, church groups, clubs, etc. Conversely, just because a person has a leadership “title”, doesn’t mean they’re a good leader i.e.; Manager, VP, Sr. Analyst, President, Father, Mother, Deacon, Board Member, School Trip Chaperone, etc. It takes certain characteristics to lead. Like the chameleon, leaders must see and adjust to different situations in order to reach goals. They work with the environment, not against it. In order to do this, they’ve got to have the right mindset. Let’s call it A+ leadership, for everybody.
You’re going to meet a lot of strange insecure people in this world. Some people are so threatened by you, that your very presence makes them uncomfortable. Some people are so jealous of you, that they won’t let you shine in their presence. They secretly want what you have. Some people will make every attempt to belittle your accomplishments and not acknowledge your victories. Even to the extent of character defamation. Here’s what I do in that situation.
My wife unknowingly helped me realize something the other day. I have been suffering from headaches, which directly affect my ability to influence and be effective on any level. Normally when this happens I say it’s because of a lack of sleep or I ate a sugary snack (usually ice cream) right before bed. I then pound Motrin until the headache is gone, which can take a whole day sometimes. My wife asked me a very simple question that was so basic, I was ashamed and grateful at the same time. Ashamed that I didn’t think of it, but grateful that she did. Continue reading to see her question.
To all the Mother’s of the world who follow Boss In The Middle, Happy Mother’s Day! As a blog dedicated to leadership, we would be remiss to let today go by without acknowledging the leadership contribution of Mother’s.
I prayed yesterday morning and went through my day. It was pretty uneventful, until right before bed. My best friend told me that in general, I am a negative and angry person who has high expectations of others. I am subject to mood swings and nothing anyone does is ever good enough for me. I also complain about everything, everyday. Read on to see what happened after that.
So today, I woke up and prayed. I will be honest and tell you that I did it in bed again and I don’t remember getting a specific word from God. Maybe He didn’t want to talk to me this morning? Maybe I should work on getting out of bed and getting in my “war room”? I did however, decide to focus on two things. Anger & Effort.
This is going to be short and sweet. I prayed this morning, back in my normal spot at home. It was a very nourishing session of prayer and meditation. God not only spoke to me, but reminded me about a gift He gave me.
I am writing to reflect on my last post. I just re-read it and first of all, I don’t know why I was surprised God could give me a message in 6 minutes. I mean, He’s God. He can do anything. I should have said, “surprisingly, I heard God’s message.”
The other thing I thought about was the fact that I am really tired right now. After traveling through two time zones and having to re-adjust, the thoughts in my mind Have turned negative and angry. I started thinking about going to work tomorrow and every negative thing about my job was pouring into my head. My thoughts ended with me wondering if my local church was hiring…
Right then, I pinpointed my frustrations to me being tired, as opposed to my job being horrible. I have a really good job and career. I am grateful and blessed. My hope is to fall asleep very soon so that I can get back in my “war room” tomorrow morning. And if you don’t get the “war room” reference, please rent and watch the movie. I know that Christian movies can be a little cheesy at times, because they can make any kind of miracle happen. It’s a movie. But I liked this one.
My message for tonight is that leaders need sleep. Only you know how much you personally need. For me, 6 hours gets it done. I can’t sleep longer than that. However much sleep you need, make sure you get it in. Or you may as well prepare to have a sub-par day, with negative thoughts coming out of nowhere.
You’re defenses against the obstacles of this world are not as strong, when your mind is operating like a wet noodle.
Within leadership, planning and decision making, timing is sometimes an overlooked element. The best laid plans could fail due to misjudging the “when”. Here are five things to consider, when implementing a new strategy.