Anyone can be a leader at any level, in any organization, even without a leadership “title”. This includes work, home life, charitable organizations, church groups, clubs, etc. Conversely, just because a person has a leadership “title”, doesn’t mean they’re a good leader i.e.; Manager, VP, Sr. Analyst, President, Father, Mother, Deacon, Board Member, School Trip Chaperone, etc. It takes certain characteristics to lead. Like the chameleon, leaders must see and adjust to different situations in order to reach goals. They work with the environment, not against it. In order to do this, they’ve got to have the right mindset. Let’s call it A+ leadership, for everybody.
You’re going to meet a lot of strange insecure people in this world. Some people are so threatened by you, that your very presence makes them uncomfortable. Some people are so jealous of you, that they won’t let you shine in their presence. They secretly want what you have. Some people will make every attempt to belittle your accomplishments and not acknowledge your victories. Even to the extent of character defamation. Here’s what I do in that situation.
I had a crazy dream last night, that led to some truths about my reality today. Continue reading to see what I learned.
Organizations have begun to flatten the hierarchy of leadership. Instead of clearly defined structures with team leaders and project managers, people are being placed on teams with common goals and overall objectives. Sometimes, there are no official “titles” when working on a group project. A first year employee may have a better idea than a senior manager with 20 years in the business. This can actually work to “over-empower” a younger employee, causing cockiness. As millennials enter the workforce, this situation can cause a rift with the older generations. Not because the ideas are different, new or better. At times, some millennials can come off as dismissive towards older generations. Some feel entitled to the same pay as a senior member whose been doing it for 20 years, because their title is the same. Right or wrong, they have been labeled as the “instant gratification generation”. They want it now and it’s not fair if they aren’t getting it. Raises, promotions, corner office, etc…. I will say this as a generation X’er, trained by baby boomers, who has 20+ years left in the tank. Slow your roll.
As bosses in the middle, we believe that everyone can do their very best, every day. Part of that belief encompasses another belief, that every issue has a solution. Even though these two things are true, from time to time, we fail. Why? We believe that it’s because people aren’t thinking critically in crucial situations. Every incident investigation I have ever done into a system failure, has some form of human error factored in. Most of the time, it’s communication or the lack of communication. We can’t predict every possible scenario that may happen during a project, but we can teach people how to think through these issues. By empowering our teams and setting expectations, we believe we can get to the core of setbacks before they happen.
We believe this is accomplished through full engagement in the task, while remaining aware of potential obstacles.
I’ll offer 3 things that we as leaders must tell our teams, in order to set the expectation and influence the type of behavior we want to see.
Things won’t always go our way. At times, we’ll have problems leading ourselves and others. For various reasons, our ability to influence and motivate will disappear. We will seemingly exhaust every resource in search of answers, only to come up empty. We may even begin to doubt that God can or will help us, based on the degree of our obedience to His will. Sometimes we forget who God is and how many great things He has accomplished. As a boss in the middle of this life, it is crucial that these thoughts do not overtake us. See the following tips on how to remember who God is.
Like the chameleon, leaders are not able to stay one way. They must develop the type of character that can anticipate, accept, adapt and administer. To become a problem solver and a voice of influence, these skills are very necessary.
If a father says to his daughter, “you’re beautiful”, she believes it. If he tells his son, “you can do it”, the son also believes. In both cases, if they trust the parent, the children normally won’t ask a lot of questions. Read on to see the opposite effect.
Some have said, “keep your expectations low and you’ll never be disappointed”. I think that’s poor advice somebody read on a t-shirt. As a leader, you must set expectations and yes, they may need to be set high. It’s a critical part of influencing teams to high levels of performance and accomplishing tough goals. You can set high expectations, as long as you do it properly.
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If I don’t know the answer, I won’t pretend I do. I may have to do some research and get back to you, but that will only help me grow. So please, ask anything.
I use the Holy Bible as my base. Hopefully, the content of this website can help people become the best godly version of themselves. It’s already helping me be honest in areas that were once hidden and broaden my bible study in order to provide helpful content.
I truly pray that this will bless many lives. No topic is off limits.
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