I wanted to repost this, as I learn this lesson over and over. We all get angry and that’s okay. It even happened to Jesus more than once, so don’t get upset that you got mad at someone. It’s how we react that matters. If we do it right, anger can actually be used to our advantage.
Living in a world where everybody likes you and your choices is not ideal or realistic. Here’s an old story about myself that I wanted to re-post, as it taught me a very valuable lesson. Maybe someone else can learn from it.
We all get angry. I’m pretty sure it’s ok, even Jesus got angry. It’s how we react that matters. If we do it right, anger can actually be a strength. Here’s a list of 4 ways anger can help us grow.
We all have expectations. My expectations are probably too high at times. It’s causing issues and came to a head yesterday. Normally, I would think of this as something bad or negative about the person or group that doesn’t measure up. For example, if people describe what they do as going “above and beyond” and in my mind they are only accomplishing the base expectation, it makes me think this person or group is lazy, which 9 times out of 10 is not the case. I can’t go on like this and expect to lead effectively. I’m not exactly sure what to do, but here’s where I’m at with it.
So today, I woke up and prayed. I will be honest and tell you that I did it in bed again and I don’t remember getting a specific word from God. Maybe He didn’t want to talk to me this morning? Maybe I should work on getting out of bed and getting in my “war room”? I did however, decide to focus on two things. Anger & Effort.
During conflicts, a boss in the middle must know when to say “time-out”. There’s a point when arguing your point (even if you’re right) only works to further aggravate the situation. There are many other benefits to discontinuing an argument.
As leaders, we need to be in tune with our team in order to solve problems. That means we have to listen. In order to ensure you are listening to the right thing, you need to ask the right questions. Here are three ways to make that happen.
We are often asked to make tough choices. Sometimes this means making a tough choice at home, at work or politically. In the case of the U.S. election, people are being asked to make one very important decision that will shape the future. Our children will be impacted. Our hopes, dreams and aspirations will be in the grasp of a President, who will be powerful enough to broker peace or wage war. It’s serious. In that seriousness, emotions begin to take over rational thought, due to individual conviction and passion surrounding the issues. As humans, our natural tendency is to fight for our “choice”, so how can we think about living in harmony afterwards? Continue reading “5 ways to live in harmony after a tough choice – An election special.”
Ever been in a really tough spot in your career? Have you ever been forced to work in a group where the team argued most of the time? Did you get passed up for that promotion and raise? Is there distrust in the workplace culture? I’m sure we’ve all been in tough environments and our first instinct is to escape. We wish we could fast forward to the end and see how it turns out. Let me tell you a story about tough environments.