You see it everyday in the media. It’s very apparent, maybe today more then ever, that words matter. This lesson is learned very young in life and extends into adulthood. It’s become such a normal part of life to hear negative words, that we often tell people to “have a thick skin” and “just ignore it”. Even positive words can be dangerous. That’s when we caution people with phrases like, “don’t get a big head” or “that person only wants one thing from you”. Having said that, people should develop within themselves a certain level of spiritual fortitude, where they draw their value from God and not man. But that’s not all we should do regarding positive and negative words. Read on for some ways leaders can use words more effectively.
There are a lot of ways to lead a team. Usually leaders will develop a style that matches their own strengths, as they pursues goals. Each goal reached is a victory used to catapult the team to another level. By utilizing various techniques, good leaders influence their teams to expected ends. There are 5 things leader must do everytime in order to maximize their effectiveness and be part of a winning team.
At times in conversations, I accidentally cut people off, but doesn’t everybody? Does that mean I’m not a good listener?
You ever hear people say, “keep your expectations low and you’ll never be disappointed”. I’ve always thought that was a pretty simplistic worldview. One that if abused, would lead to an average existence. I’ve also heard people say, “keep your expectations high”, “keep pushing”, “never give up”, “your dreams will fail if you let them”, “sleep is for losers” and my personal favorite, “winners win and losers lose”. On most days, I totally buy into this thought pattern. However this mindset, when used cavalierly, can be detrimental as well. The trick is timing and perspective. Unfortunately, I learned this lesson the hard way.
I just had a funny thing happen to me last night. I typed a lie because it sounded more sexy than the truth. Before I even completed the sentence, I said to myself, “c’mon, get honest”. Truth is, I want to “keep it real and be totally honest”, but there’s a part of me that doesn’t want to show weakness. I gotta get over that quick.
So I fessed up and told the truth.
My final thought, if your not being totally honest, your lying. If you’re going to lie on your blog when you say you’re being honest, what’s the point?
As a leader you’re going to always be searching for ways to empower your people to grab the brightest future possible. you want to encourage and inspire them to levels of performance far above anything they can imagine. We are of course, supposed to be developing leaders. One motivational techniques is to let them see the future. A peek at the future may be a great way to get someone out of their comfort level and enable them to grow. My question today is, should that picture be more positive or realistic?
We all have expectations. My expectations are probably too high at times. It’s causing issues and came to a head yesterday. Normally, I would think of this as something bad or negative about the person or group that doesn’t measure up. For example, if people describe what they do as going “above and beyond” and in my mind they are only accomplishing the base expectation, it makes me think this person or group is lazy, which 9 times out of 10 is not the case. I can’t go on like this and expect to lead effectively. I’m not exactly sure what to do, but here’s where I’m at with it.
Here’s a list of 5 things that start with the letter “C”, that will help ensure leaders lead well.
So, technically I passed my challenge. Pray for ten minutes at the beginning of the day and see what happens. I wrote a post afterwards, which you can read on my website. Quick summary of the post, God answered my prayer right away and told me to make sure to mind my behavior today because I haven’t had much sleep. I decided to stay quiet and just get through the day. I could do that! I was so proud of myself. I figured, today is gonna be easy! Little did I know, that was only the beginning.
As bosses in the middle, we believe that everyone can do their very best, every day. Part of that belief encompasses another belief, that every issue has a solution. Even though these two things are true, from time to time, we fail. Why? We believe that it’s because people aren’t thinking critically in crucial situations. Every incident investigation I have ever done into a system failure, has some form of human error factored in. Most of the time, it’s communication or the lack of communication. We can’t predict every possible scenario that may happen during a project, but we can teach people how to think through these issues. By empowering our teams and setting expectations, we believe we can get to the core of setbacks before they happen.
We believe this is accomplished through full engagement in the task, while remaining aware of potential obstacles.
I’ll offer 3 things that we as leaders must tell our teams, in order to set the expectation and influence the type of behavior we want to see.