During conflicts, a boss in the middle must know when to say “time-out”. There’s a point when arguing your point (even if you’re right) only works to further aggravate the situation. There are many other benefits to discontinuing an argument.
As bosses in the middle, we believe that everyone can do their very best, every day. Part of that belief encompasses another belief, that every issue has a solution. Even though these two things are true, from time to time, we fail. Why? We believe that it’s because people aren’t thinking critically in crucial situations. Every incident investigation I have ever done into a system failure, has some form of human error factored in. Most of the time, it’s communication or the lack of communication. We can’t predict every possible scenario that may happen during a project, but we can teach people how to think through these issues. By empowering our teams and setting expectations, we believe we can get to the core of setbacks before they happen.
We believe this is accomplished through full engagement in the task, while remaining aware of potential obstacles.
I’ll offer 3 things that we as leaders must tell our teams, in order to set the expectation and influence the type of behavior we want to see.
Things won’t always go our way. At times, we’ll have problems leading ourselves and others. For various reasons, our ability to influence and motivate will disappear. We will seemingly exhaust every resource in search of answers, only to come up empty. We may even begin to doubt that God can or will help us, based on the degree of our obedience to His will. Sometimes we forget who God is and how many great things He has accomplished. As a boss in the middle of this life, it is crucial that these thoughts do not overtake us. See the following tips on how to remember who God is.
This isn’t one of those bible verses that are hard to understand or easily taken out of context.
Matthew 6:33 But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.
It’s the old classic, “don’t worry” verse. But, there’s more to it. As a boss in the middle of this crazy world, it’s essential that you understand this truth.
As a boss in the middle of this crazy world, we are always focused on something. Sometimes it’s exactly what we should focus on, sometimes it’s not. But we are always focused. Basically, we need to focus, on what we focus on. I am purposely saying the word “focus” a lot. It should be a focal point. Read on for my perspective of proper and improper focus.
I am not normally overwhelmed with enthusiasm about Mondays. I really like weekends. Probably a little too much. Weekends break up the monotony and allow me to spend time with family. I can work on projects around the house or do general clean up. If the mood hits me, I can invite people over. I have freedom. No meetings to attend, no reports are due, and I can do what I want pretty easily. Makes it tough to get excited for work on a Monday morning. But, since work is necessary, I had to change my perspective. Continue reading to see what I did.
Some have said, “keep your expectations low and you’ll never be disappointed”. I think that’s poor advice somebody read on a t-shirt. As a leader, you must set expectations and yes, they may need to be set high. It’s a critical part of influencing teams to high levels of performance and accomplishing tough goals. You can set high expectations, as long as you do it properly.
I am in the middle of a spiritual war. It is very painful. I can feel my soul being tugged back and forth between good and evil. 1 Corinthians 16:13-14 gave me peace and encouragement tonight. The verses enlightened me to the fact that, while in the midst of this struggle, there is a way to be. The first step is to recognize that I am at war for my soul.
Sometimes when we get down on ourselves or have a bit of bad luck, it’s good to remember that it could be worse. Whatever situation you’re in, there is someone who’s worse off. I don’t know if this is the best way to describe this, but I’m trying to get you to think about perspective.
Do you and your friends help each other, like James 5:16 suggests? This takes a level of trust and honesty that develops over time.
As a “boss in the middle” you should surround yourself with people that add to your life and you should be adding to others.