America got soft after the 80’s.

IMG_0589The United States has become soft.  We have issues telling the truth because we’re afraid we’ll hurt people’s feelings.  We have a tendency to sugarcoat the things, because we feel the truth will crush someone’s spirit.  We are relegated to telling off-color, awkward jokes, which leaves others wondering if we’re serious or not.  This is almost always followed by the line “I was just playing”.  Yeah right…

We also diminish the attainment of goals, by giving everyone a trophy, instead of just saying “you lost”.  These facts are well documented, but I want to know, why?  What the heck happened?  I know one thing, it sure didn’t start in the 80’s.

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Use energy to change problems, not perception.

IMG_0465When things go wrong, some people spend more time and energy pointing fingers and deflecting blame away from themselves, in an attempt to change the perception of others.  In reality, that energy is better spent solving the problem.  Even if it means pointing the finger at yourself.

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Things “successful” people sometimes forget to tell you.

IMG_0578The simple truth is, you can’t have it, just because you want it.  You’ll hear a lot of people say, “you can have it, if you want it”.  If you believe it, you can achieve it. That’s why motivational speakers do so well because people that listen to them are searching for anything to latch onto.  Anything but the truth.

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Standing up after you fail.

IMG_0572All of the self-help guru’s talk about how getting up from failures is what makes a person successful.  It sounds a lot sexier than it is.  I offer practical steps to help you “stand up” again, in the midst of failure.

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Words Matter

IMG_3983You see it everyday in the media.  It’s very apparent, maybe today more then ever, that words matter.  This lesson is learned very young in life and extends into adulthood.  It’s become such a normal part of life to hear negative words, that we often tell people to “have a thick skin” and “just ignore it”.  Even positive words can be dangerous.  That’s when we caution people with phrases like, “don’t get a big head” or “that person only wants one thing from you”.  Having said that, people should develop within themselves a certain level of spiritual fortitude, where they draw their value from God and not man.  But that’s not all we should do regarding positive and negative words.  Read on for some ways leaders can use words more effectively.

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I went vegan! (sort of)

IMG_0556I have been doing some research on the benefits of going vegan.  I have to be honest, it’s not about the animals or the environment, it’s all about my health.  So now, I’m trying it.  I’d love to do this until Thanksgiving, but I decided to do a two week test and see how I feel.  So far, I have had some shocking results. Read on for my thoughts, as I begin week 2.

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Real leaders don’t make promises.

IMG_0559A promise is something that elicits a strong emotional response.  Your promise enables people to believe in you, only to have their hopes shattered when you fall short.  During the sermon on the mount, Jesus reminds us that we should not make promises at all, for any reason.  Simply because we have no idea if we will be able to keep them.

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An honesty lesson for true leaders.

IMG_0554It feels good to tell the truth about myself.  I’m always liberated by it.  The lesson today is easy.

Being honest with yourself leads to self-leadership.

It’s one of those simple concepts that are hard to do.  Like, skydiving.  It’s simple, jump and pull the cord.  Don’t wait too long, bend your legs, hit the ground, do the roll, done.  Or something like that…  I’m sure there’s more to it, but probably not that much.  I’m sure I could learn the basics in a short time.  However, skydiving can be very hard to actually do because of things like; the possibility of death, fear, anxiety, common sense, etc.  Being honest with myself is sort of like that.

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Recovering from mistakes – a series. Part 5. Don’t take yourself too seriously.

IMG_0546I wrote an article here about recovering from mistakes. In it, I gave 5 ways to recover from your mistakes. In this series, I will look at each one a little deeper.

1. Accept the mistake.

2. Don’t beat yourself up.

3. Find value.

4. Have a main goal to shift back to.

5. Don’t take yourself too seriously.

Today we explore #5- Don’t take yourself too seriously.

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