I am humbled by stories of people putting other people first. It’s not really a natural human reaction, meaning, I believe our natural instinct is to look out for number one. Ourselves. But when someone selflessly gives, it’s really special. I am slowly beginning to believe that we all have this capacity, but we need to drop our ego and desires and replace them with a passion for people.
These thoughts give me a sense that my own reputation is not more important than helping someone. One of a leaders primary duties is to develop others. In this development of others, you will find yourself.
I have not perfected this “selfless pursuit”. Taking my will back at a whim, I can be selfish with my time, money and talent. I am however, getting better. The more I remember that it’s not about me, the more I can increase my capacity to help others.
You become unbound when you aren’t worried about your reputation or your own advancement. You start making decisions based on what’s best for the group, instead of what’s good for the group and what makes you look good. You begin to put others in positions to be successful, as opposed to gleaning the spotlight for yourself. In fact, you will begin to shy away from the spotlight in order to allow others to shine. Again, I’m not all the way there yet, but I’m getting better.
Bottom line. I feel better when I lead in this manner. It reduces stress and provides true fulfillment. I’m not worried about making a good impression so I can get that next promotion. Basically, I feel really good when I simply share my experience with someone and help them, just because it’s the right thing to do. It seems counter-intuitive, but helping others gain confidence by showing them their inner strength, is one of the best things you can do for yourself.