I wrote an article here about recovering from mistakes. In it, I gave 5 ways to recover from your mistakes. In this series, I will look at each one a little deeper.
1. Accept the mistake.
2. Don’t beat yourself up.
3. Find value.
4. Have a main goal to shift back to.
5. Don’t take yourself too seriously.
Today we explore #4- Have a main goal to shift back to.
Having a main goal to shift back to implies that the mistake has thrown you off your square. Often times,we get so caught up in the aftermath of a bad decision that we neglect to remember who we are and what we do. Our past accomplishments and future endeavors can become distant memories if we’re not careful. Remembering these things can refocus you, enabling you to move swiftly beyond the mistake.
In other words, you need to find your personal “why” and make it more important than your current mistake…
The main goal has to be one thing, specific and evergreen. It’s not an easy thing to figure out at first. Imagine, living your life in a way that is fully engaged in seeking out and accomplishing one ultimate goal. Does it seem impossible? What if I told you that you’re already doing it…
Good or bad, right or wrong, every thought, choice, decision and action sequence you have ever taken in your life, has led to this moment right now. Sometimes your choices seem too small to be important, but that couldn’t be farther from the truth. Small choices matter in the big picture. Drinking some alcohol one day is no big deal. Drinking some alcohol everyday will probably become an issue.
Whoever you are today is already your main focus.
Some people may not like to hear this, because it calls into play accountability. It’s a word that’s often used negatively, such as, you are only at a certain level in life, because you didn’t put in the time and effort to become more. It’s on you. You’re accountable for your position, etc.
However, accountability can be positive as well. Such as, in the case of a successful father and husband who holds himself accountable for supporting his family. This person’s “why” will ground him and allow him to withstand any mistake he ever makes, because he knows his family is his focal point. His “why” is bigger than the mistake.
Sometimes, people make the mistake of having a main focus that’s so big, they never take the first step. These folks have no intentional “why” and a mistake can easily derail them. They won’t have anything to grasp onto. Nothing can hold them down and maintain their sanity. They are at the mercy and whim of others opinions and ideas.
Set a goal today if you don’t have one.
Early on, your goal may be small and personal or big and altruistic. You may need to create small goals and tasks, in order to reach the bigger goal. It’s really up to you and your goal setting skills. Deciding what you are able to execute, your timeframe, etc.
The most important thing, however, is to have a “why” so that your movements and life choices are very intentional. Mistakes will not be able to overtake your rational thought patterns. Your “why” will bring focus and clarity to any situation, allowing you to properly process solutions.
Your focus point will change as you grow older and wiser and I can’t help you come up with your personal goal, but I can give you a hint.
True leaders have life goals that aren’t about their own life at all…